Question

Most friendships die a nature death: people move, change jobs, or start different stages of life. Other friendships, however, end unexpectedly. When a friendship is over and you don't understand why, it can be especially painful. Sometimes a friend ends your relationship without telling you why.

The loss of friendship might be worth reflecting on. Knowing when a friendship is over and why it ends may help you build stronger friendships in the future.

●See if you can find a problem.

When a friendship is over, examine your relationship. Perhaps you remember your friend complaining that you're always late. Maybe you seldom return your friend's phone calls. When a friend ends your relationship, try to find out the reasons why the friendship is over.

●Write a letter to your friend.

Express your feelings about the friendship. Do you miss seeing them? Do you have any regrets? Would you act differently if you were still friends? Make it an honest communication.

●Express your feeling of being hurt or anger.

Write or talk about how you feel in a letter. When a friendship is over, it's important to communicate exactly how hurt you feel and why. Write until you have nothing left to say. When a friend ends your relationship, you do have the right to express yourself.

●Communicate that you are open to pick up the friendship.

When a friendship is over and you want to reconnect some day, send Christmas, or birthday cards. Say hi and send greetings through mutual(共有的)friends. When a friendship is over, don't give up until you're ready.

●Decide to make your present friendships better.

An adviser once told me that simply talking about your relationship strengthens your relationship. Talk to your present friends. Are they happy with your friendship? If a friend ends your relationship, learn something from it.

1.The underlined phrase "reflecting on" in Paragraph 2 is closest in meaning to _______.

A. thinking about B. giving up C. keeping on D. getting angry

2.What can we know from "See if you can find a problem"?

A. You are always late when you and your friend plan to go out.

B. You often refuse to answer your friend's phone calls.

C. Your friend is fond of complaining all the time.

D. Perhaps your friendship is over because of your problem.

3.When a friendship is over, you may do all the following EXCEPT ____.

A. write a letter to your friend to tell your regrets

B. talk about how you feel about your friendship

C. ask your friends whose mistake on earth it is

D. send your greetings to your friend before giving up

4.The purpose of this passage is to_____________.

A. explain why you lose a friendship B. suggest what to do when a friendship is over

C. tell you when a friendship is over D. advise how to end a friendship

Answer 1