20.There is a problem each of us faces in following advice on emotional healing:apologizing is difficult.We are trapped in what we think of ourselves by holding onto our pride.We can be selfish and not willing to admit our most obvious mistakes.Pride eats away at us as we argue or ignore the mistake.
It's happened to me.I have had too much pride and selfishness to apologize to a loved one I hurt.When I did want to apologize,I couldn't bring myself to face the other person.This is the pride I'm talking about.Maybe apologies come difficult for men because they're expected to be dominant (占優(yōu)勢的).It's like the joke that a man never asks for directions when lost.Ladies are more emotionally open than guys and are willing to express it.Still,both genders wonder how to correctly apologize.
In shifting (改變)the focus on apologizing away from you,what does not apologizing do to other people?They feel hurt that you are not willing to communicate your mistake.They lose trust in you as you hide behind your mistake avoiding reality.They become angry with you,wondering why you will not tell them the truth.They may begin to counter your lack of apologies by not apologizing themselves and from this the relationship goes downhill as the two of you get caught in a power struggle.
You need to communicate your mistakes.A mistake you made is like a scratch and by not apologizing you are making the scratch a deeper wound and rubbing salt into it.You need to stop hurting the other person and yourself by learning to apologize.There is real power in apologizing and emotional healing.
35.People find it hard to apologize for their mistakes because of theirB
A.emotional feeling
B.sticking to their pride
C.making argument
D.being trapped in lies
36.Why are men more unwilling to make apologies?C
A.They don't intend to hurt other people.
B.They expect others to forgive them.
C.They don't want to be considered weak.
D.They aren't good at expressing themselves.
37.What bad effect will there be if you refuse to apologize for your mistakes?D
A.Other people won't pay attention to you…
B.You will lose confidence in.yourself.
C.You won't be forgiven even if you tell the truth.
D.The friendship will get hurt and go worse.
38.From the last paragraph,it can be inferred thatC
A.communication can stop your making mistakes
B.mistakes would turn into deeper scratches
C.a(chǎn)pologizing is good for you and the other person
D.a(chǎn)pologizing is the most powerful in emotional healing.
分析 本文是關(guān)注社會生活的說明文,每個人都會犯錯,但是很多人特別是男性犯錯后內(nèi)心很自私,甚至不愿意為很顯然的錯誤道歉;因為自己的驕傲不愿意承認的錯誤,也不愿意向別人道歉.作者從被傷害的人的角度分析了不道歉會產(chǎn)生的影響,最終說明這不但對自己有害,還會傷害別人,進而影響人與人之間的關(guān)系.
解答 35.B.細節(jié)理解題.由第一段的We are trapped in what we think of ourselves by holding onto our pride可知,人們不愿意道歉是因為內(nèi)心的驕傲,故選B項.
36.C.推理判斷題.由第二段的Maybe apologies come difficult for men because they're expected to be dominant可知,男士通常被認為處于主導地位,所以他們不愿意示弱,故選C項.
37.D.細節(jié)理解題.由第三段"They feel hurt…They lose trust in you…They become angry with you…They may begin…by not apologizing themselves and from this the relationship goes downhill"可知,如果你不為自己的錯誤道歉的話,就會失去朋友對你的信任,然后對方也不會向你道歉,最終導致友誼的破裂,故D項正確.
38.C.推理判斷題.由You need to stop hurting the other person and yourself by learning to apologize可知,道歉對犯錯的人和受傷害的人都有好處,故選C項.交流錯誤就是道歉,但是道歉不能防止人犯錯,故A項錯誤;犯錯后及時道歉就不會使傷害加深,故B項錯誤;由文章最后一句話There is real power in apologizing and emotional healing可知D項錯誤,因為文中沒有說明是"most powerful".
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