7.When was the last time you faced disappointment from a certain outcome that did not meet your expectations?It could be any event in your life.Perhaps your meeting at work did not go as well as you expected.Your new job was not what you expected.Maybe your relationship did not work out the way you hoped it would.
Disappointments are dissatisfactions that arise when your expectations are not met by outcomes.In short,a) you had an expectation,b) things did not unfold against the expectation.
Every day,people deal with disappointments.Depending on how big the disappointment is and how you choose to deal with it,the feeling of disappointment may disappear after a short while or hang over your life for an extended period of time.If not handled properly,disappointments can lead to depression and eventually lack of concern.
Contrary to what people may think,disappointments are actually positive phenomena,for two main reasons.
1.Passion toward a cause
Disappointment is the reflection of your passion toward something,whether it is a certain goal,dream,desire or outcome.Wherever there is a cause,there will be an effect--in this case,the passion is the cause and disappointment is the effect.If you don't care about something,you wouldn't be feeling disappointed,would you?The very presence of disappointment suggests that this is something you care about so much that you would feel bad over it.The higher your disappointment,the stronger your passion for this is.
As Martin Luther King Jr puts it,"There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love."This deep love is what drives you toward your goals,dreams and desires.This deep love will be what fuels you in life,bringing you to places you have never been before.This deep love is what makes life worth living.Remember that disappointment is always a better emotional state than neutrality where the individual feels indifferent toward anything.I would much rather be feeling a negative emotion any day than feeling absolutely nothing.The ability to feel is what sets us apart from non-living beings.To feel nothing is to be a robot or a machine.
2.Representing an opportunity for progress
Disappointment also signals an opportunity for progress and growth.If you are disappointed in an outcome,it means there is actually a certain error in your framework of thought which needs correcting.
Whenever you are disappointed,it means you have certain mental illusions (錯覺) about reality which you need to address.If your understanding of reality are always right,you will never feel disappointed at all.By correcting your illusions and getting a more accurate picture of the reality,you are equipped with more knowledge.This knowledge is a source of power,power for you to act toward your goals.
Think of disappointment as a troubleshooting tool which helps you iron out the twists in your understanding of reality.By using the knowledge from your previous experience,you can act more accurately toward your desires.The more you deal with disappointment and learn from it,the closer you will get toward your goals and dreams.
Title | Why Disappointment Is Good |
(66)Definition/Meaning/Concept | Disappointment is dissatisfaction with unexpected outcomes. |
Facts | If (67)improperlyhandled,disappointments can result in depression and lack of concern.Meanwhile,they can also be positive (68)phenomena. |
Reasons | Passion towards a cause | 1.Disappointment (69)reflectsa person's passion towards a goal,dream,desire or outcome. 2.Disappointment (70)Passionthat you care about something very much. 3.Feeling disappointed is (71)betterthan feeling nothing at all. 4.The ability to feel distinguishes human beings (72)frommachines. |
Representing an opportunity for progress | 1.Disappointment is a (73)signalof an opportunity for progress and growth:there's an error to be (74)corrected. 2.Disappointment provides you with power to act towards your goal. 3.Disappointment can be considered as a troubleshooting tool that can help you (75)understandreality better. |