Question

Exchange a glance with someone, and then look away. Do you realize that you have made a statement? Hold the glance for a second longer and you have made a different statement. Hold it for 3 seconds, and the meaning has changed again. For every social situation, there is a permissible time that you can hold a person’s gaze without being intimate, rude, or aggressive. If you are on an elevator, what gaze-time are you permitted? To answer this question, consider what you typically do. You very likely give other passengers a quick glance to size them up（打量）and to assure them that you mean no threat. Since being close to another person signals the possibility of interaction, you need to send out a signal telling others you want to be left alone. So you cut off eye contacts what sociologist Erving Goffiman（1963）calls “a dimming of the lights”. You look down at the floor, at the indicator lights, anywhere but into another passenger’s eyes. Should you break the rule against staring at a stranger on an elevator, you will make the other person extremely uncomfortable, and you are likely to feel a bit strange yourself.

If you hold eye contacts for more than 3 seconds, what are you telling another person? Much depends on the person and the situation. For instance, a man and a woman communicate interest in this manner. They typically gaze at each other for about 3 seconds at a time, and then drop their eyes down for 3 seconds, before letting their eyes meet again. But if one man gives another man a 3-second-plus stare, he signals, “I know you”. “I am interested in you.” or “You look peculiar and I am curious about you.” This type of stare often produces hostile feelings.

1. It can be inferred from the first paragraph that ________.

     A. every glance has its significance (meaning or importance)

     B. staring at a person is an expression of interest

     C. a gaze longer than 3 seconds is unacceptable

     D. a glance carries more meaning than words

2. If you want to be left alone on an elevator the best thing to do is ________.

     A. to look into another passenger’s eyes     B. to avoid eye contacts with other passengers

     C. to signal you are not a threat to anyone      D. to keep a distance from other passengers

3. By “a dimming of the lights”, Erving Goffiman means ________.

     A. closing one’s eyes                                   B. turning off the lights

     C. stopping glancing at others                       D. reducing gaze-time to the minimum.

4. The passage mainly discusses ________.

     A. the limitations of eye contacts  

     B. the exchange of ideas through eye contacts

     C. proper behavior in situations

     D. the role of eye contacts in interpersonal communication

Answer 1

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